nice blog!

i read a blog...even the post was very long, but very meaningful..besides that, some of the post quite fun...

one of the paragraph...

I was a realist and I knew that building relationships wasn't easy and that one had to fight for it. Don't get me wrong, arguing with her was very very painful. There were times where I just felt like collapsing. It was so draining. But at the end of every argument, I would always tell her this, "falling deeper in love with you. Because I know you better now, and you know more about me too." And I meant it. Why? Its because you don't get to know a person by having a good time watching movies, eating at fancy restaurants, talking about your hobbies/interests or just doing something incredibly romantic. No, you truly get to know a person through conflict.

ts through the clash of differences that you can really learn to appreciate each other. Ever heard of the phrase - You LIKE a person because of the good points; You LOVE the person in spite of the bad points. That's something I really believe in.

Unfortunately it was all too draining for her and when one final big issue came up, she couldn't take it anymore.

Don't follow your heart, lead it!

Most of the time when we ask our peers for advice, their reply would be: Just follow your heart. This is based on the reasoning that one should do what he/she feels right at the time. But this is rather dangerous as following your heart means following your feelings and emotions, which can change in an instant. I think this really challenges the way we think about love. Is love only a feeling like The Darkness claims it to be? Maybe that's why there are so many divorces nowadays, because once the 'feeling' is gone, people don't 'love' each other anymore and they don't see the point in sticking around.

love is not a feeling but rather a decision, a decision to commit. So in a relationship, you have to decide to commit and stick to it by all means, which is basically 'leading your heart'.